In 2007, my mom (I'm her only child) set up her Will/Estate Plan/etc., giving me Power of Attorney.
In 2012, she went to the doctor and was diagnosed with dementia and the onset of Alzheimer's.
She was on meds to slow it down, but her current husband (and his scheming spawn) kept flushing those meds (which I wasn't aware of... she's 1k miles away).
In the fall of 2013, they took her to a notary and changed her Will to take away my POA and name his daughter-in-law. I'm not even named in contacts with the Privacy Act stuff.
I've spent a lot of time and money shuffling through lawyers that deal with elder affairs & family law and get the same answer... Because this particular disease affects each individual at a different rate, there's no way to prove she wasn't "of sound mind" when they got her to sign the revised Will, no matter how hinkey it went down. Even if I chose to fight it, I'm told she wouldn't live until the outcome...it would likely take that long.
Meanwhile, during all the digging through public records and finding out stuff...I stumbled across police reports where he beat the **** out of my mom.
Currently, she's in a nursing home struggling with cancer. I know she had surgery two days ago, but I'm not allowed any info due to the privacy act crap.
I've been told by her piece of crap husband, "Good luck knowing when she dies because I ain't telling you ****."
Is that Elder Abuse-y enough?
In 2007, my mom (I'm her only child) set up her Will/Estate Plan/etc., giving me Power of Attorney.
In 2012, she went to the doctor and was diagnosed with dementia and the onset of Alzheimer's.
She was on meds to slow it down, but her current husband (and his scheming spawn) kept flushing those meds (which I wasn't aware of... she's 1k miles away).
In the fall of 2013, they took her to a notary and changed her Will to take away my POA and name his daughter-in-law. I'm not even named in contacts with the Privacy Act stuff.
I've spent a lot of time and money shuffling through lawyers that deal with elder affairs & family law and get the same answer... Because this particular disease affects each individual at a different rate, there's no way to prove she wasn't "of sound mind" when they got her to sign the revised Will, no matter how hinkey it went down. Even if I chose to fight it, I'm told she wouldn't live until the outcome...it would likely take that long.
Meanwhile, during all the digging through public records and finding out stuff...I stumbled across police reports where he beat the **** out of my mom.
Currently, she's in a nursing home struggling with cancer. I know she had surgery two days ago, but I'm not allowed any info due to the privacy act crap.
I've been told by her piece of crap husband, "Good luck knowing when she dies because I ain't telling you ****."
Is that Elder Abuse-y enough?
I saw this thread and thought it was going to be about ChurchMouse.
In 2007, my mom (I'm her only child) set up her Will/Estate Plan/etc., giving me Power of Attorney...
Dude! Agreed!!makes me hope that karma is real!
Dude! Agreed!!
I'm totally rooting for Karma!!
I bought the freakin' T-shirt!!!
I think neglect may be more common than abuse, at least from what I see. There are a TON of older widowed women living in homes that have multiple generations sucking off her social security check and sleeping in the home without paying rent. The expectation is she provides shelter/utilities/food for everyone. That is incredibly common.
This. I'm a social worker in a rehab/assisted living/long term care facility. Too many stories, not enough time. Ive seen someone will themselves to die (in a pretty dramatic fashion btw) because they didn't want to return to his own home where his drug addict daughter was shooting up herion. He wanted to give me all of his guns so she wouldn't get them, but that couldn't happen. Crazy stuff.