Florida teacher facebook post

[Skullglide]

Veteran Florida teacher's post about school violence goes viral

https://www.wthr.com/article/veteran-florida-teachers-post-about-school-violence-goes-viral

(Via WTHR)

I like her, well composed. I am sure a lot of people will poo poo kittens over her post. I am an older, new parent (41 with 15 month old twins) I am away on 24hr shifts, 10 days a month but am very engaged with our children when I’m off. The lack of parenting is amazing these days.

 

[rob63]

That was good, shared it on the book of face.

I used to be elementary school librarian, and saw what she is talking about all too often. It was amazing how you would talk to a parent about their kid stealing a book and be told "that's just what kids do".

 

[SnoopLoggyDog]

She is very courageous for posting that. I agree with her 100%.

My Wife and Daughters are all educators and deal with this parental non-responsibility crap on a daily basis.

 

[churchmouse]

Parenting.........a soon to be lost art.

Parenting is hard. It is painful and rewarding.
Tough love is fading. So very few willing to loose the kids friendships.

 

[Skullglide]

I agree CM. My wife was a pre school teacher for head start before our twins were born. She had some real winner parents.

 

[chocktaw2]

Good post, she nailed it. Back in the day, if I got in trouble in school, a worse fate awaited when I got home.

 

[churchmouse]

I agree CM. My wife was a pre school teacher for head start before our twins were born. She had some real winner parents.

Just dealing with some parents as a coach for their kids was an enlightening experience. I can not imagine being a teacher.

 

[Snapdragon]

I also shared it on Facebook a few days ago, with this preface that I wrote:

"Fixing society's ills starts at home. Engage your kids. Hold them accountable for their behavior. Teach them responsibility, compassion, and empathy. Lead by example. Build their self-esteem without making them self-centered. Parenting is such a huge responsibility that I found it too daunting to ever take on, yet some jump in with no forethought whatsoever."

 

[bmbutch]

Sadly, I’ve seen my grandson smack his mom & Dad in the face (he’ll be 5 in July), & they just tell him that’s wrong. He’s smacked PawPaw 1x & was not at all happy with the response. He’s rared back one other time, the lightbulb went off, he sheepishly grinned & put his arm down.

 

[churchmouse]

Sadly, I’ve seen my grandson smack his mom & Dad in the face (he’ll be 5 in July), & they just tell him that’s wrong. He’s smacked PawPaw 1x & was not at all happy with the response. He’s rared back one other time, the lightbulb went off, he sheepishly grinned & put his arm down.

Children can be guided if the parents are capable. If any one of my grand kids act up in front of my kids the result is most unpleasant. They are held to task.

But they are still little terrorists....

 

[Spear Dane]

Just dealing with some parents as a coach for their kids was an enlightening experience. I can not imagine being a teacher.

Big nope as far as career choices for me. Sucks cause I think I would be good at it but damn if I am putting myself through the BS that passes for school now.

 

[MrsGungho]

Good post, she nailed it. Back in the day, if I got in trouble in school, a worse fate awaited when I got home.

Same for my son now. He knows it and on the rare occasion when I have had a call from school, they knew it too. I won't tolerate bad behavior, in my home or anywhere my son is.

 

[WebSnyper]

Sadly, I’ve seen my grandson smack his mom & Dad in the face (he’ll be 5 in July), & they just tell him that’s wrong. He’s smacked PawPaw 1x & was not at all happy with the response. He’s rared back one other time, the lightbulb went off, he sheepishly grinned & put his arm down.

Yep, that wouldn't fly at all in my house either.

I liked this part

Be the annoying mom that pries and knows what your kid is doing. STOP being their friend.

because that is the way my wife and I parent (especially my wife, as she is just amazing at knowing what is going on).

 

[Hoosierdood]

I have 4 teenagers. I've had people tell me I'm out of line because I will tell my kids to get their tablets/phones because I want to read their emails and messages. I've had other parents scold me for invading their privacy. My kids have friends who cant believe how mean my wife and I are because we make the kids check in periodically. My co-workers cant believe that I made my 16 year old get a job so that she could buy her own car, or that I make her pay her insurance and phone bill.

But my kids don't mind. They look at their friends and peers and cant believe how disrespectful and spoiled they are. My kids tell me that they wouldn't want me to be more permissive. My kids tell me that they appreciate our rules because they know that we care about them.

Its time that parents need to be parents and not their kids friend. Kids will have lots of friends in their lives. They only get 1 set of parents (or sometimes 2). I don't give my kids everything that they want so that they will like me. My responsibility is to train my kids to be productive adults. That is the best gift that I can give them.

 

[tmschuller]

I have 4 teenagers. I've had people tell me I'm out of line because I will tell my kids to get their tablets/phones because I want to read their emails and messages. I've had other parents scold me for invading their privacy. My kids have friends who cant believe how mean my wife and I are because we make the kids check in periodically. My co-workers cant believe that I made my 16 year old get a job so that she could buy her own car, or that I make her pay her insurance and phone bill.

But my kids don't mind. They look at their friends and peers and cant believe how disrespectful and spoiled they are. My kids tell me that they wouldn't want me to be more permissive. My kids tell me that they appreciate our rules because they know that we care about them.

Its time that parents need to be parents and not their kids friend. Kids will have lots of friends in their lives. They only get 1 set of parents (or sometimes 2). I don't give my kids everything that they want so that they will like me. My responsibility is to train my kids to be productive adults. That is the best gift that I can give them.

Your awesome and a minority. We belong to the same beliefs club here. I have 3 educators in the family and had 4 teenage kids at once. It’s hard and keep up the good work. All our kids are grown and thank us for what we did. This kids that had no parenting are still out of control.. it’s sad and hopefully they get it some day. Thanks for sharing. Tim

 

[MrsGungho]

Your awesome and a minority. We belong to the same beliefs club here. I have 3 educators in the family and had 4 teenage kids at once. It’s hard and keep up the good work. All our kids are grown and thank us for what we did. This kids that had no parenting are still out of control.. it’s sad and hopefully they get it some day. Thanks for sharing. Tim

I know I did things right with my girls

They are grown, married, own their home, have or has a family on the way. Good, respectable jobs, pay their bills on time.

I don't worry about my son being the same. Raising him the same as I raised them.

 

[churchmouse]

I have 4 teenagers. I've had people tell me I'm out of line because I will tell my kids to get their tablets/phones because I want to read their emails and messages. I've had other parents scold me for invading their privacy. My kids have friends who cant believe how mean my wife and I are because we make the kids check in periodically. My co-workers cant believe that I made my 16 year old get a job so that she could buy her own car, or that I make her pay her insurance and phone bill.

But my kids don't mind. They look at their friends and peers and cant believe how disrespectful and spoiled they are. My kids tell me that they wouldn't want me to be more permissive. My kids tell me that they appreciate our rules because they know that we care about them.

Its time that parents need to be parents and not their kids friend. Kids will have lots of friends in their lives. They only get 1 set of parents (or sometimes 2). I don't give my kids everything that they want so that they will like me. My responsibility is to train my kids to be productive adults. That is the best gift that I can give them.

Sounds very familiar. My kids are grown and on their own. They have repeatedly thanked us for how we were with them. I to have have parents (attempt) to belittle the spouse and I for our parenting. Funny thing.....most of their kids are abject snowflake failures. Not all but several. My kids are miles from perfect as we all are. But they know what it is to be parents.

 

[OakRiver]

I have 4 teenagers. I've had people tell me I'm out of line because I will tell my kids to get their tablets/phones because I want to read their emails and messages. I've had other parents scold me for invading their privacy. My kids have friends who cant believe how mean my wife and I are because we make the kids check in periodically. My co-workers cant believe that I made my 16 year old get a job so that she could buy her own car, or that I make her pay her insurance and phone bill.

But my kids don't mind. They look at their friends and peers and cant believe how disrespectful and spoiled they are. My kids tell me that they wouldn't want me to be more permissive. My kids tell me that they appreciate our rules because they know that we care about them.

Its time that parents need to be parents and not their kids friend. Kids will have lots of friends in their lives. They only get 1 set of parents (or sometimes 2). I don't give my kids everything that they want so that they will like me. My responsibility is to train my kids to be productive adults. That is the best gift that I can give them.

All sounds pretty reasonable to me. It seems that we have many parents who are focused on being their child's friend rather than an authority figure. Once your child is an adult then by all means move the relationship into a friendship, but until then boundaries need set.

 

[churchmouse]

All sounds pretty reasonable to me. It seems that we have many parents who are focused on being their child's friend rather than an authority figure. Once your child is an adult then by all means move the relationship into a friendship, but until then boundaries need set.

That is hard. Requires work and effort. Also heartache ensues. So many today are not up to the task.

 

[ChristianPatriot]

That is hard. Requires work and effort. Also heartache ensues. So many today are not up to the task.

One of the best lessons you can teach your kids is, “No.” You’re going to be told no your entire life whether your parents did or not. The sooner you learn to deal with it without throwing a fit, the better.