Unless you are a smaller than average individual, have a previous injury of some sort, are in poor health, or are otherwise particularly recoil sensitive, my recommendation would be to skip the .380 ACP all together and go with something in 9mm (or even 38 if you like revolvers).
Except during unusual times (like we're in currently) 9mm is generally more available, less expensive, offers more factory load options, and is a more capable cartridge.
Furthermore, since you can find a single stack launch platform for 9mm, i.e. a handgun, of about the same size as the Bersa 380, there's really no reason to go with the 380 unless there are other mitigating factors. An example would be the Kahr CW9:
Bersa - 6.6" L x 1.3" W x 4.9" H, 3.5" bbl, 20 oz, 7+1
CW9 - 5.9" L x 0.9" W x 4.5" H, 3.6" bbl, 17.7 oz, 7+1
I had a Bersa 380 or a while. Nothing wrong with it per se. It was purchased as a "transition" handgun for the kids - that is, something between .22 and the larger centerfires. As it worked out, the kids transitioned straight past 380 to larger centerfires and there was no need for it. Sold to a friend whose wife has wrist problems. If any of that tells you anything.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6cxNR9ML8kWow Coserman!!! As a satisified Bersa Thunder owner I am offended by your statements where you are painting me as someone less capable than your kids and comparable to your friends wife with wrist problems. I am not disabled, smaller than average, nor sensitive to recoil. I just happen to like the gun I purchased as do many other Bersa owners. The OP asked for advice, not ways to insult fellow gun owners!