This sounds like the best advice to me OP. I'm sorry for your loss.I also lost my wife after a very long battle with a lot of illness back in September. A lot of stuff goes through your head about changes. Don't make any big decisions for at least 6 months. My mind is a little clearer now after five months. Although I didn't have any thoughts on me carrying my guns, I did have thoughts on changing other things. in the end I changed nothing. Give yourself time to grieve and give thanks to the lord knowing she is no longer suffering.
First...so very sorry for your loss! Words cannot describe the feelings that you have nor the 'differences' one experiences during the loss of a loved one, but the good news is, one does get through it, and things do get better!Of my two carry guns, one is small and light, I don't even notice when I carry that one. The other is larger and more potent, and I do notice the weight when I carry it. Still do not want to have one on me. And I just cannot understand this at all. Is this a passing phase that will go away sometime, or is it a way to to inadvertently engineer my own demise? I can't figure it out. I just know I am in a weird, strange place right now.
Sure it is. You're among friends who care for you. Vent away. Its good for you. Its part of the healing process.Not the right and proper forum for this, but I started here, so keeping it going.
I know that it's in no way comparable to your loss, but I understand what you mean about our loved ones personal items.Not the right and proper forum for this, but I started here, so keeping it going.
Yesterday I cried. I like to do scroll saw work, and I use tape to hold the patterns on the wood. My Sweetie always peeled the tape off for me. I finally started another project yesterday, first time in many months, and when I was thinking of the next steps I realized she was not here to pull the tape, and admire my work. Sadness and sorrow still overcome me when I think of it.
This morning, I realized why I do not want to clean the bathroom. It means I would have to deal with the things that were hers - toothbrush, feminine things, her teeth (just what the hell do I do with her teeth, dammit). I have no use for denture cups, Efferdent, hair ties and clips.
Yeah, I know. In time things will be simpler. Right now the wound is still open and bleeding, no scar tissue holding it closed. God is still comforting me, people are still asking Him to care for me, and I trust in the name of Jesus. He never said we would not hurt, and man, I hurt.
Thanks for reading.
Do you have a pet? A dog? Not a replacement by far, but it helps..Not the right and proper forum for this, but I started here, so keeping it going.
Yesterday I cried. I like to do scroll saw work, and I use tape to hold the patterns on the wood. My Sweetie always peeled the tape off for me. I finally started another project yesterday, first time in many months, and when I was thinking of the next steps I realized she was not here to pull the tape, and admire my work. Sadness and sorrow still overcome me when I think of it.
This morning, I realized why I do not want to clean the bathroom. It means I would have to deal with the things that were hers - toothbrush, feminine things, her teeth (just what the hell do I do with her teeth, dammit). I have no use for denture cups, Efferdent, hair ties and clips.
Yeah, I know. In time things will be simpler. Right now the wound is still open and bleeding, no scar tissue holding it closed. God is still comforting me, people are still asking Him to care for me, and I trust in the name of Jesus. He never said we would not hurt, and man, I hurt.
Thanks for reading.
Do you have a pet? A dog? Not a replacement by far, but it helps..
It's probably grief. My older brother broke his neck and died on his motorcycle racing over to see my other 15 year old brother who suffocated to death at home from a brain tumor.cannot understand this at all
Excellent advice.I also lost my wife after a very long battle with a lot of illness back in September. A lot of stuff goes through your head about changes. Don't make any big decisions for at least 6 months. My mind is a little clearer now after five months. Although I didn't have any thoughts on me carrying my guns, I did have thoughts on changing other things. in the end I changed nothing. Give yourself time to grieve and give thanks to the lord knowing she is no longer suffering.