She Said IT... Now what?

[Faine]

So, the wife said it the other day… “You’re gun crazy, you need to slow down!” I winced, I admit. I don’t think I am gun crazy, I’ve purchased 2 pistols and one rifle in the past 4 months (not including hers). I think the issue is that she’s not as into it as I am and I need to find a way to get her just a little bit more into it. She loves shooting and has her own Glock 26 but she doesn’t like shooting anything else other than her .22 rifle. I was thinking of trying to find a .22 semi-auto pistol and jazzing it up with some new grips or other personalization. Any of you ladies out there have any suggestions? Or guys that have worked through this with their spouses?

Some facts.

- She’s a girl.

- She loves to shoot but is particular about what she shoots.

- She loves the color pink.

- She’s kind of a girly girl but has fond memories of shooting with her grandfather.

- She likes surprises.

 

[vesan87]

This (the whole gun with grips)
Shooters Discount, Inc. - Volquartsen Ruger MK III Laminated Wood Grips - Pink

I personally think it's horrific but some people like them.

 

[sepe]

3 in 4 months is gun crazy? I've been known to buy more than that in one trip to an auction (multiple weekends in a row). I don't have anyone to answer to though.

As for what to surprise her with, is there anything specific that you don't have that she use to shoot when she went with her grandfather? If all else fails, trade her in for a good dog and a bunch more guns.

 

[ol' poke]

Not a pistol, but how about this?

ol' poke

 

[Faine]

Good Start

I was thinking of asking her parents what she used to shoot with her grandfather, but I have a feeling they’ll say she shot a .22 rifle and she’s already got a pink one, so I don’t think that’s the route to go. Very good suggestion though. I think she'd like that Ruger, that's definitely an option going forward. Hopefully by later tonight after work I'll have some more suggestions and can really put some thought into this.

 

[Hurculeasz]

I was able to get my wife a little more interested by joining a gun club. She met other women that she was able to talk to

 

[shootinghoosier]

Sign her up for a pistol class somewhere. Funny how being around other shooters will deepen your (i.e., her) interest.

 

[biggen]

What's worked for me is, I don't talk alot about guns in front of her, I never tell her how many I've got or when I buy, sell or trade.

 

[Mrmonte]

What's worked for me is, I don't talk alot about guns in front of her, I never tell her how many I've got or when I buy, sell or trade.

Im thinking along those same lines. My wife enjoys shooting but could care less about gun talk so I dont boar her with details about my latest trade or purchase.

Im not suggesting that you lie to your wife about your firearms, just that she might not be that interested in hearing about them. Does she really need to know about everything your bringing into the house? Does she make a point of telling you about every pair of shoes she gets? probably not.

 

[Faine]

Im thinking along those same lines. My wife enjoys shooting but could care less about gun talk so I dont boar her with details about my latest trade or purchase.

Im not suggesting that you lie to your wife about your firearms, just that she might not be that interested in hearing about them. Does she really need to know about everything your bringing into the house? Does she make a point of telling you about every pair of shoes she gets? probably not.

Yes... Yes she does. And asks what I bought too. We don't have lots of gun talk but we share with each other.

 

[Johnny C]

When she buys 3 pairs of shoes in as many months, tell her she is shoe crazy!

 

[lucky4034]

If she shoots guns, yet makes a comment that "you are too gun crazy... you need to SLOW DOWN" (key words are SLOW DOWN)... it MIGHT BE that she feels she is playing 2nd fiddle to your hobby. Considering the fact that she obviously is pro-gun.

Consider skipping getting her a new gun (which could potentially turn her off more) and use the money to take her somewhere very un-gun related for the weekend?

Obviously I could be way off... with my lady however, unless she is against me doing something, she won't usually complain unless I am doing it (whatever it might be) to the point where she feels ignored.

 

[rockhopper46038]

Get her to an Appleseed. If she doesn't get her patch her first time out and she's at all competitive, she'll start asking YOU to go to the range so she can practice for getting her patch the NEXT time. If you're lucky, she may take three or four Appleseeds to get it (and they are free for her).

 

[HICKMAN]

why didn't you just say "Yes dear"?

You've already got a wife that shoots, if she wants to get more involved, she will.

You have already crossed a line in her eyes, so ease up.

Trying to "get her into shooting more" won't work right now, because she had to actually make a point to you.

If you are wise, listen to what she's saying, don't play friggin games by buying her stuff.

Did you actually talk to her about what she said? I'm betting you've spent more time in this thread that you have talking to her and understanding where she's coming from. Women don't like being tricked or to be made feel inferior.

She doesn't need you to

find a way to get her just a little bit more into it

Have a talk with your wife.... and do more LISTENING than talking.

 

[tommyj223]

i get that from my wife,i just tell her to leave because i like my guns more.its that easy,she wont leave!
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[HICKMAN]

and after that, point her to this thread and see what she thinks

 

[CSORuger]

As an old married guy, may be it about balance. What did you do for her or buy her in the last four months? As you said "she is a girlie girl" and most of them like to be treated as a princess!

Maybe take her out to FOGO de CHAO and a show?

 

[Faine]

For the record, we speak every day, we talk and get along (she talks to me about shoes...that's for real (Proof: She just got her cowboy boots replaced because they were a size too small, this new pair of pink and black leather boots fit her much better)(Proof that I'm a guy: The brand starts with E but I don't remember who made them))) , she's not ignored, we do things together regularly. We have date nights and go out on the town.

She's a very tactile person, she's into what she has RIGHT NOW, what she's holding RIGHT NOW. This isn't an issue of me trying to placate her or get her off my case, it's about finding something that will allow her to share more of an interest with me in this. I really like the ideas coming up, I'm at work right now (on my lunch break) and will look up the Appleseed thing when I get home (she's super competitive when she's with other girls, with men she's not so much). I'm leary about joining a gun club though because right now we're already looking at joining a conservation club because we can also camp and fish there and our moneys will go towards protecting some of Indianas finest natural resources, its wildlife and fauna. I digress however, thanks in advace and post mortem for the suggestions so far. Keep it up INGO chums!

 

[JettaKnight]

This (the whole gun with grips)
Shooters Discount, Inc. - Volquartsen Ruger MK III Laminated Wood Grips - Pink

I personally think it's horrific but some people like them.

Those are wild!

 

[jackadew]

I'm guessing it has nothing to do with GUNS. She just knows how to get your attention. Women need Love...Men need Respect. Maybe buy her some flowers for no reason, do some dishes, put away some laundry...just a suggestion.