There are reasons.
"Me" Exactly.They would have to be VERY good ones for me to sit around waiting for a year for the person who professed to love me forever no matter what to figure out what they really want. Not that I would be rushing into a new relationship, but I am not a person who can be in limbo for that long not knowing what is going to happen and allowing someone else to control the direction my life is going to take. I would be taking time to get some counseling and determine what is best for me but would be protecting myself legally while that process occurs. None of us know what the situation really is so there may be a valid reason for waiting this out. However, as has been repeatedly stated, OP needs to protect his interests in his property in the meantime.
"Me" Exactly.
I disagree.Never waist any time waiting for something like this. Life is far to valuable. Every minute is precious. Time lost is a waste and you will "NEVER" get it back.
Sorry to hear about your troubles. IMHO, If she's not willing to stick around and work on it I would simply file for a divorce.
I disagree.
I truly do hate to hear anyone going through this as it puts a dark cloud over your life. That cloud can linger slowing down any hope you may have of being happy.
(1)...let her go.
(2) get a lawyer right away and follow his advice to the "LETTER"
(3) not following said advice can and will cost you in the long run.
(4) Not a darned thing wrong with seeking counseling. Do it for yourself.
Put this behind you as rapidly as you can. I have lost property, a business and the love of my children in my life. There is still a huge hole after all these years. I pray you get through this with as little hurt as possible.
Divorce is a horrible, nasty thing. I have gone through it once and the others are spot on with the above advice. I'm looking at this from the female perspective, and would have to agree with the others about filing now. What is the point of waiting a year or more and having your life in a holding pattern? Has she proposed going to counseling? If not, I would also recommend going, with or without her. If she will go with you and be honest in the sessions, you may gain some insight as to what her reasons are for the separation and whether or not here is another party involved in her life already. If she is not willing to go, then what is the point of the separation? If she isn't willing to attend counseling, what makes you think she will return to the relationship after signing a lease on an apartment and establishing a separate life on her own?
You need to protect yourself...financially and emotionally. Long-term separation is likely to end up in a divorce anyway so why drag it out?
If you want to keep the house and can afford to buy out her equity, then do so. If not, as the others have said...put it on the market and sell it and move on. When I divorced, our house was sold and the profits split.
I am sorry you are in this situation, but as the others have said. Life is too short and you deserve to be happy.
In addition to the journal, I would save receipts on house repairs and anything that you pay for on her behalf or that would result in her getting a bigger settlement in the event his ends in divorce. Call a lawyer.
It is possible to live separate and still want to be married. Sometimes a situation becomes unbearable, and the person you love just drains you emotionally and physically, especially if they are in denial about their problems or just aren't working on them. Not saying that person is you or her, just speaking from experience. Protect yourself financially, but if you want this marriage, it may not be over. I would go with individual counseling for both over couples counseling.
Without knowing the specifics of the OP's situation, I can say that once a relationship is over, it's usually over. I fought long and hard to keep and maintain my relationship, but in the end when he decided he was done there really wasn't anything I could do. Protecting oneself is the next step. He ended up costing me plenty in shared expenses including medical bills after he had a car accident. Apparently in Indiana under some circumstances, a spouse can be liable for another spouse's medical bills even though we were in the process of divorce.
I disagree.