Trying to find peace after a loss.

[drumsscott]

I know there are some really good people on here so I thought I would ask for some advice. I lost someone very close to me about 16 months ago and I am struggling to come to peace with that loss. I know there are a few on here that have been in my shoes and I want to know what has helped you to deal with the loss. I have been using over the counter meds to deal with insomnia. I found that church really helped for a while but it seems to not be as much help as it was. Burying myself in work and hobbies has been helpful but also seems to be losing it's effects.

What are my options? Some things I have considered are counseling, prescription meds (trying to avoid this one), possibly working out. I would be interested to hear others opinions. Any books that might be helpful?

I have been avoiding some things that myself and this other person enjoyed doing together. Like hunting, fishing and camping. Is this not healthy? I realize that we all grieve and deal with things slightly different in most cases. I also find myself avoiding some social interactions with others.

I am not on here 24/7 as I work and have a family but I will be checking this thread daily. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

I lost my son to suicide after he came back home after completing 2 tours with the Marines. I still cannot wrap my head around why he did it and how I didn't see it coming. I'm still having days where it's hard for me to get out of bed and be motivated, I loved my son. What helped me was finding a specific support group dealing with suicide along with a few sessions with a highly recommended clinical specialist. There is a group out there for what you went thru and maybe need to talk thru. If I can offer any assistance with contact numbers or as a listening post just reach out too me. You are not alone!

 

[GodFearinGunTotin]

I know there are some really good people on here so I thought I would ask for some advice. I lost someone very close to me about 16 months ago and I am struggling to come to peace with that loss. I know there are a few on here that have been in my shoes and I want to know what has helped you to deal with the loss. I have been using over the counter meds to deal with insomnia. I found that church really helped for a while but it seems to not be as much help as it was. Burying myself in work and hobbies has been helpful but also seems to be losing it's effects.

What are my options? Some things I have considered are counseling, prescription meds (trying to avoid this one), possibly working out. I would be interested to hear others opinions. Any books that might be helpful?

I have been avoiding some things that myself and this other person enjoyed doing together. Like hunting, fishing and camping. Is this not healthy? I realize that we all grieve and deal with things slightly different in most cases. I also find myself avoiding some social interactions with others.

I am not on here 24/7 as I work and have a family but I will be checking this thread daily. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

It truly pains me to hear of good people struggling so. Brother, there are some very good ideas above. But I'll add: it sounds like you're a believer so trust me when I say God is probably already throwing you lifelines to try and help you. They may be some of the offers and advice on this page. They could be other little things that cross your path on a daily basis that might not ordinarily even notice. Keep an open mind, keep asking him, and keep watch for those lifelines and grab them when you stumble upon them. The way God works often times, he'll probably help you in some way you never imagined. I'll be praying for your peace and strength.

 

[Wolfhound]

Leadeye- Expat's advice is solid. There are still many reasons to be thankful for who is still in my life. The Grandkids being at the top of the list.

PGRChaplain- Thank you for the prayers. I will try the Benadryl advice when needed. It speaks highly of your character to be fighting cancer and praying for others.

Trigger Time- Thanks for the advice and words of encouragement. I can tell from your post that you have some experience dealing with this sort of thing. I will try to get more exercise whenever possible. My knees are not what they use to be but I still can get around. We live on two acres so there is always productive things that can be done. Painting, mowing, trimming, landscaping.....all are good outlets. Good words in your post. Thank you.

d.kaufman- Thank you for the words of encouragement. It means a lot.

CHCRandy- I am sorry to hear about your mother passing when you were so young. You are right, some questions just can't be answered in this life. Thank you for the prayers.

churchmouse- Even though we haven't met I feel like I know you. Your words carry the wisdom of experience and I have an enormous amount of respect for you and the road you have traveled. Thank you for taking the time to share some of that wisdom with me and thanks for all you do on INGO.

drumsscott- I sent you a PM. I would gladly take that contact information. We are going through the same trials.

GFGT- You are right. I am a believer and that faith has helped me get this far. You offered some good advice. I will keep an eye out for those lifelines. I think INGO has already thrown me several. Thank you sir for the prayers.

 

[Gary119]

Sent you a PM

 

[Wolfhound]

Sent you a PM

Thanks Gary. I am open to suggestions.