In short, just about any JHP these days will get the job done for you. Just make sure that you buy enough to run a few mags through your gun to make sure everything is compatible.
I carry with Speer Gold Dot +P Short Barrel 124gr. Federal Hydrashok has been around for a while with good repute. Hornady Critical Defense is getting rave reviews, but it hasn't been around for a long time yet. Winchester SXT are a resurrected Black Talon.
In short, just about any JHP these days will get the job done for you. Just make sure that you buy enough to run a few mags through your gun to make sure everything is compatible.
For excellent feed profile, the Federal 9BP and 9BPLE loads have a PROVEN track record on the street and literally feed like ball in really finiky guns.
+1 to Federal Hydra-Shok. Solid choice IMHO, feeds reliably, has a great reputation among most folks for self defense ammo.