Props to Randy for taking that time with her. I'm surprised she was able to overcome it with an NRA class.My wife was so scared of guns that she wouldn't even touch them or look at them. Finally, she decided to go to an NRA intro to handgun class at Indy Gun Safety Home. The catch was that she would only go if our two female neighbors went along with us. She wanted women in the class. She did great until we got to the range. She was literally in tears when it was her time to shoot but the owner and instructor, Randy, took some quality one-on-one time with her to help calm and reassure her. After the class she loved it so much that we went back the next day to buy her the Springfield XD-9 she has now.
The trick for her was letting her make her own decision and to have female support around her. With that being said, since you're in my neck of the woods you should check out Indy Gun Safety. Like I said, the owner and instructor really helped her out. And, if your wife would feel better around women they offer women only classes.
One day, I came home with a flyer about a local NRA Basic Handgun Orientation class being offered.