First rule.... The element of suprise is your friend. Dont threaten (AKA: WARN) anything. Just do it and let her find out after you have already done it. Second... BEAT HIS ASS! Someone needs to teach him a lesson in life that you dont mess with another mans wife. BEAT IT REAL GOOD!
Im not here to bash on women but they are absolute wild crazed animals when it comes time to pay the piper in a divorce. She will lie and steal (She already cheated so...) to get you to believe what she wants you to believe before, during AND after the divorce.
I wouldnt even warn her what is coming and wouldnt even tell her that you have lawyered up...NO WARNINGS!
Get your stuff out of the house without her knowing until after all your stuff that you dont want sold is out of there! Cancel ALL credit cards! Cancel all debit cards. If you have direct deposit, change it to a new account that is in your name only! Hide all titles (out of the house) even if only her name is on them and dont give them up until lawyer or a judge tells you to!
Any stocks, etc. with both your names on them.... SELL THEM! Cash them out! Move money where she cannot get to it!
Remember! Half of zero is still zero. Get it now before she does!
Get your stuff out of the house without her knowing until after all your stuff that you dont want sold is out of there! Cancel ALL credit cards! Cancel all debit cards. If you have direct deposit, change it to a new account that is in your name only! Hide all titles (out of the house) even if only her name is on them and dont give them up until lawyer or a judge tells you to!
Any stocks, etc. with both your names on them.... SELL THEM! Cash them out! Move money where she cannot get to it!
Remember! Half of zero is still zero. Get it now before she does!
I've been on the other end of that and my advise is to NOT do that. It won't end well if you do. Change passwords on stock and retirement accounts, but don't liquidate anything. Don't take any legal property titles that are in her name and "hide" them. Have an accounting for every asset, every last dime of cash, joint accounts or not. IANAL but I had a good one.
Yeah, and definitely don't beat anyone up. What on earth would that accomplish?
Is there a particular reason why reconciliation isn't an option? That would be my first recommendation. I'll never regret my choice to do so.
Bitter are we. Been there my friend. Been there.
Nope. Not me. My divorce went excellent. She got nothing, and I paid/gave her NOTHING. Just like I told her it would go down. I left her for a very different reason.
While i dont disagree for the most part with all this....I leave this thread saying>..... If enough "men" get their ass beat they will think twice before messing around with another mans wife.Read the thread. He stated they are done.
No, do not seek him out and pound on him. She allowed this. He is just a man. An idiot....yes but still.
I have had confrontations with the 1st "X"s new man but not over her. My kids. He paid dearly for those mistakes and so did I. It cost me a lot to get out of that one. It almost cost me seeing my kids. Leave him be. Let him deal with her know.
Journey.....Loving, touching, squeezing. It is true.
I was...but it was because I was always 10 steps ahead of her even after almost 13yrs of marriage (no kids thank god).Well, you are one of the lucky ones.
While i dont disagree for the most part with all this....I leave this thread saying>..... If enough "men" get their ass beat they will think twice before messing around with another mans wife.
Only the smart ones. I had a life long friend that just never learned to stop touching what was not his to touch. He got his butt pounded more than a few times for this very reason. Some idiots just do not get it.
Know a few more like that as well. They just see no boundary's.
He is no longer in my circle. Got tired of bailing him out of situations.
One day... He may "disappear". One of the first things out of my mouth is "Do you have a husband/boyfriend" when I start talking to a woman. I dont want to find out what it feels like to be staring down the barrel of ANY gun!
Read the thread. He stated they are done.