That's nice, but did you have a comment on the actual subject at hand?anyone (not just male) who does anything to a kid deserves the worst things to happen to them.in my eyes they are the lowest piece of crap,and i give them no forgiveness
This is similar to what happened in the late eighties early nineties with rape. Increased education and awareness reduced the stigma of reporting rape, especially date rape. As a result more victims came forward. Increased reporting made it look like a rise in rapes (instead of fewer rapes going unreported). This created further public outcry that something needed to be done about the "rise in rape crimes".
Yep. In fact, it scares the **** out of me. We're exploring adoption, and this societal attitude is the one major thing that makes me not want to do it.This one upsets me more than most anything else. I've got little brothers, nephews, nieces, etc. I love kids and get along with them very well.
But, if I see a cute little kid in walmart, I just keep it to myself rather than tell the parent "cute kid", for fear of being judged a pervert.
In fact, just saying something like I just have in most settings would judge me a pervert. It's absolutely ridiculous.
We're exploring adoption, and this societal attitude is the one major thing that makes me not want to do it.
As far as the rest of the stories go there is no excuse thats just stupid a music teacher cant help place a childs fingers on the keys to show them the correct way to play an instrument. or a guy not allowed to change a diaper. If he is not trusted he should not be employed there.
Stay away from vans with no windows.
Fletch,
Please don't let those with poor attitudes influence the way you and your wife feel about adoption. "They" don't control your lives -- at least I hope not. Best wishes for your adoption decision!
Fletch,
Please don't let those with poor attitudes influence the way you and your wife feel about adoption.
"They" don't control your lives -- at least I hope not.
i guess no you seem to say enough for everyoneThat's nice, but did you have a comment on the actual subject at hand?
It's a sad state of affairs when a daddy cant let his son or daughter sit in their lap. I feel sorry for parents that are just starting out. My children are 19,16,14 so I am getting to the end of my time as a parent of young children. I do remember one time years ago when my oldest was acting like a little turd in the store, I swatted his rear end. There was some woman who looked at me and said something about how terrible it was for me to "hit my son". I told her to shut the "F" up and mind her own business, her jaw hit the floor, and I proceeded to tell her that he was my son and I would discipline him as I saw fit. I thought she was going to crap herself right on the spot. And that was 16 years ago. In today's world a LEO would have probably been called and I would have been reported to CPS as a child abuser.
The funny thing about it, I have been told by the police that short of breaking bones, hitting the face/head other than a slap across the mouth, and drawing blood, corporal punishment has been held as a parental right in Indiana.
INGunGuy
Specifies that a parent or guardian of a child has legal authority to: (1) apply reasonable force to a child; or (2) impose reasonable confinement on a child; if the parent or guardian believes that the reasonable force or confinement is necessary for the proper control, training, or education of the child. Provides that the following factors are relevant in determining whether force or confinement is reasonable: (1) The age of the child. (2) The sex of the child. (3) The physical and mental condition of the child. (4) The nature of the child's misbehavior and the child's motive for the misbehavior. (5) The influence that the child's example may have on other children of the same family or group. (6) Whether the force or confinement is reasonably necessary and appropriate to compel obedience to a proper command. (7) Whether the force or confinement is disproportionate to the misbehavior, unnecessarily degrading, or likely to cause serious or permanent harm.
Currently before the legislature is SB 143 which if passed:
I'm thinking the best answer to a complaint such as "it's terrible for you to hit your child!" would be "Better I do it now than a cop have to do it when he's grown up because he's an ass with no respect for laws, rules, or authority. I know that I'm doing it to teach him limits with love. They won't."
The sad part is that a law needs to be even considered, let alone passed, to provide for this situation.
I have not and will not hesitate to show affection to my daughter; not when she was a child, not now that she is grown, not as long as I draw breath. If someone has a problem with it, the problem is theirs, not mine. Of course, if they want to make it my problem, I can file a defamation of character, libel, and/or slander suit just like anyone else, and once again, the problem becomes theirs.
Blessings,
Bill