I have a dear friend that lives in a nice condo complex on the west side of Indy. About a year and a half ago a problem began to develop with her neighbor in the attached condo next door. My friend has several autoimmune diseases due to exposure to farm chemicals as a child. Life is difficult for her, even under the best of circumstances.
Her neighbor is a heavy pot smoker; almost nightly (usually between about 3 and 5 AM). She’s in some sort of a relationship with a wealthy sugar daddy who seems to supply her all the weed (and anything else) she needs, as long as her door is open for him to stop by and get whatever he needs from her whenever he needs it.
I’m not sure where it’s getting in, but the odor of the weed is so strong that my friend can’t sleep, and often has to leave to spend nights at her daughter’s house, because it bothers her respiration so badly. She’s resorted to turning off her furnace and air conditioner at times because it seems to come in through the ducts faster when those are running. She’s even gotten up and opened all the doors and windows in the middle of the night to try to get through ‘til the morning. It’s so hard on her that she’s considering putting in a whole-house roof ventilation fan, even though the covenants prohibit it (more on the HOA board there in a bit).
When she’s exposed to it, she usually has nausea and dizziness in the morning for two hours or more the day after. Her unit is a two-story. Stairs and dizziness aren’t a good combination. She’s not exactly a spring chicken. I’m fearful she’s going to fall and hurt herself.
She contacted her HOA board about it, and the board’s attorney has been sending letters to her since last Fall, but nothing has come of them. It certainly hasn’t stopped her from continuing to smoke.
She called the nonemergency police number, but they told her they can’t do anything unless they actually see her neighbor smoking. That won’t happen. She keeps it indoors.
This is a very serious health and quality of life issue for her. She would be happy to live and let live if everything stayed inside and didn’t bother her, but the relationship between her and her neighbor has deteriorated because her neighbor is unwilling to make any lifestyle changes (or do anything else) to stop it from wafting next door.
I feel the same way, live and let live, but in this case, I think it’s an extremely cruel and selfish act on her neighbor’s part that this problem is still going on a year and a half later. She’s tried to address the issue by reasonable means.
Have any of you been in a similar situation? Does anyone have any thoughts on how to move toward a resolution? Her daughter lives in the same complex and doesn’t want to move, and her daughter helps take care of her, so moving isn’t really a viable option.
Her neighbor is a heavy pot smoker; almost nightly (usually between about 3 and 5 AM). She’s in some sort of a relationship with a wealthy sugar daddy who seems to supply her all the weed (and anything else) she needs, as long as her door is open for him to stop by and get whatever he needs from her whenever he needs it.
I’m not sure where it’s getting in, but the odor of the weed is so strong that my friend can’t sleep, and often has to leave to spend nights at her daughter’s house, because it bothers her respiration so badly. She’s resorted to turning off her furnace and air conditioner at times because it seems to come in through the ducts faster when those are running. She’s even gotten up and opened all the doors and windows in the middle of the night to try to get through ‘til the morning. It’s so hard on her that she’s considering putting in a whole-house roof ventilation fan, even though the covenants prohibit it (more on the HOA board there in a bit).
When she’s exposed to it, she usually has nausea and dizziness in the morning for two hours or more the day after. Her unit is a two-story. Stairs and dizziness aren’t a good combination. She’s not exactly a spring chicken. I’m fearful she’s going to fall and hurt herself.
She contacted her HOA board about it, and the board’s attorney has been sending letters to her since last Fall, but nothing has come of them. It certainly hasn’t stopped her from continuing to smoke.
She called the nonemergency police number, but they told her they can’t do anything unless they actually see her neighbor smoking. That won’t happen. She keeps it indoors.
This is a very serious health and quality of life issue for her. She would be happy to live and let live if everything stayed inside and didn’t bother her, but the relationship between her and her neighbor has deteriorated because her neighbor is unwilling to make any lifestyle changes (or do anything else) to stop it from wafting next door.
I feel the same way, live and let live, but in this case, I think it’s an extremely cruel and selfish act on her neighbor’s part that this problem is still going on a year and a half later. She’s tried to address the issue by reasonable means.
Have any of you been in a similar situation? Does anyone have any thoughts on how to move toward a resolution? Her daughter lives in the same complex and doesn’t want to move, and her daughter helps take care of her, so moving isn’t really a viable option.
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