My wife and I have a narcissist in our life. Over the years, we tried to explain away the lies and evil things that this person has done over the years, because the person is a relative. It has taken decades to have someone tell us that the person is a narcissist and would never care about our feelings or do anything kind, out of love. We started reading up on the traits and sure enough, this person exhibits them right down the line. The sad part is that a narcissist will never admit that they have a problem, so they never seek treatment. Sadly, especially for a narcissistic relative, the only solution is to just cut them out of your life. They will tell outrageous lies about you and try to assassinate your character to the unsuspecting people that they draw into their lives. If that is a relative that really isn't close, they can destroy that relationship. I hope if you suspect that someone in your life, who is treating you very badly, may be a narcissist, stop looking inward for a minute and check to see if maybe it is them. I can tell you certainly that cutting off contact may hurt for a while, but it is far better than to suffer pain under the power of a narcissist for years. One thing that has helped us, is that some relatives we have in our lives have finally realized the truth and are supportive of our position.