Any ladies here have a husband with no interest in guns or shooting?

[Lori]

Yes, you read that correctly! Unfortunately. My husband doesn't show any interest at all in guns and/or shooting. When I decided to buy my first handgun two years ago, he was against it, but I ultimately decided I had the right whether or not he approved - so, I went and bought one. I have taken it to the range several times for practice, but always alone. I decided our son needed a rifle for Christmas, because he has shown interest and I want him to learn at an early age. Thankfully, my husband did support that, but I was the one to research everything and shop for it. Now, I am the one teaching our son with no input from him. I really wish this was something we could share together, but I am stumped here. Am I alone on this issue? Ladies, if you had this problem, how did you handle the situation?

 

[churchmouse]

What....really.....a girly man....no way.......

Sorry. New years eve thread jack.

But really. The man should be there for this.

 

[Lori]

Well, I happen to be very serious about this. I don't believe "the man" has to be present for me to shoot, or for my son to shoot for that matter, but it doesn't feel right that he isn't. I am looking for some advice from any other women who may have a similar experience.

 

[churchmouse]

Well, I happen to be very serious about this. I don't believe "the man" has to be present for me to shoot, or for my son to shoot for that matter, but it doesn't feel right that he isn't. I am looking for some advice from any other women who may have a similar experience.

I see that and agree.

I (being a man of course) see this as my responsibility as my wife does not shoot that much with us.

Sorry for

+1 to you.

 

[t_star]

Have you asked him why he is not interested?

 

[GodFearinGunTotin]

This does sound odd. Like t_star asked, it would interesting to know his perspective. Not that it's all that unusual for guys to not have an interest but the paradigm is for the guy to bring the wife/gf into the arena.

 

[Leo]

Since this is a forum of people who enjoy firearms, it is hard to imagine. In the scope of things, lots of couples do not share outside interests. I would rather walk home in the rain than spend the afternoon in an antique shop with my wife. I like vintage urban blues, and she hardly likes any music at all. If there is respect and commitment on the other levels, I see no problem if some outside interests are different.

 

[Lori]

He just isn't interested. No real explanation beyond that.

 

[Lori]

We have known each other for 25 years and have been married for 15, have four children and two grandchildren even...so, this isn't a matter of me not understanding how relationships work. I just want to point that out in case there were any misconceptions.

 

[churchmouse]

Since this is a forum of people who enjoy firearms, it is hard to imagine. In the scope of things, lots of couples do not share outside interests. I would rather walk home in the rain than spend the afternoon in an antique shop with her. I like vintage urban blues, and she hardly likes any music at all. If there is respect and commitment on the other levels, I see no problem if some outside interests are different.

This is very common in relationships. My wife and I took years to develop outside interests into our relationship. She still likes many things that I just will not do. Same with her.
That said.....the whole firearm/shooting/training thing is , in my mind, a different situation all together.

I know OP is looking for input from the ladies and we men are injecting into her thread and I apologize but just had to say something on this. Training our children in this area is important.

 

[t_star]

Hm. That is a stumper, but I suppose there isn't much you can do about it. I'd say just enjoy the time with your son.

 

[t_star]

Does your son seem bothered that dad isn't interested in guns?

 

[Lori]

Hm. That is a stumper, but I suppose there isn't much you can do about it. I'd say just enjoy the time with your son.

Thank you very much, I hope to

As to your last question - I think it is too soon to tell yet. I just find it rather sad.

 

[Birds Away]

This problem comes up often on . It is the same as the guys trying to get their wives interested. The difference here is that men tend to be sensitive when there are areas that are traditionally men's territory that they themselves know nothing about. I don't know if that's the case here, obviously, but I have met guys with a great resistance to going shooting. It wasn't that they weren't interested it was they didn't want to be on public display as the know nothing noob. You furthering your knowledge and experience would only aggravate this. Best get him on board quickly. The best way might be to find someone with a private range where he wouldn't feel like he was on public display. I might be way off base with this but, then again, maybe not.

 

[halfmileharry]

We have known each other for 25 years and have been married for 15, have four children and two grandchildren even...so, this isn't a matter of me not understanding how relationships work. I just want to point that out in case there were any misconceptions.

Look for any subtle or hidden signs that he's a "closet shooter". He may have a secret life......

 

[427TriPowered]

saying this not being female... and not being married... butts every single non gun folk i have coaxed into going with me to an outdoor range with my fully stocked gun bag have morphed into gun folk...

 

[JetGirl]

First of all, you're not alone in it.
Secondly, I apologize for the SLOW-THINKERS slamming your man.

People, just because the dude doesn't dig it for himself doesn't make him a girly man. Geez!

Lori, it's not as uncommon as some would have you believe.
Not only do I encounter it in some fashion every week or so at the store, I own one myself.
He's just not that into it... though he doesn't begrudge me my "hobby" either and brags on it to others.
Actually, he's a really good shot and will occasionally go with me when I hassle him enough...but he's more content to take pics of range trips and help me pick up my brass so I can reload it (when I can finally drag him out there!).
My daughter shoots with me... I'm the one that took the reins with that, too.

I have shooter-friends that I meet up with when I get bored shooting alone...but actually, most of the time now I prefer being by myself out there!

 

[JetGirl]

Ladies, if you had this problem, how did you handle the situation?

As for this^ part...
I initially told him wayyy back (when you had to have an LTCH to even have an UNloaded firearm in your vehicle), I wanted him to get his carry permit and take some basic safety classes with me...
That way, if anything happened to me when we were out and about, he could safely (and knowledgeably) take possession/control of my firearm and legally travel it home with no worries.
I think that part is what ended up getting him to the range with me off and on, because our instructor really hammered home the "practice practice practice" part, reinforcing that lack of repetitive practice could lead to very important handling methods being forgotten...
And THAT'S when disastrous things can happen.

 

[Birds Away]

Not all were "slamming".

 

[churchmouse]

First of all, you're not alone in it.
Secondly, I apologize for the SLOW-THINKERS slamming your man.

People, just because the dude doesn't dig it for himself doesn't make him a girly man. Geez!

Lori, it's not as uncommon as some would have you believe.
Not only do I encounter it in some fashion every week or so at the store, I own one myself.
He's just not that into it... though he doesn't begrudge me my "hobby" either and brags on it to others.
Actually, he's a really good shot and will occasionally go with me when I hassle him enough...but he's more content to take pics of range trips and help me pick up my brass so I can reload it (when I can finally drag him out there!).
My daughter shoots with me... I'm the one that took the reins with that, too.

I have shooter-friends that I meet up with when I get bored shooting alone...but actually, most of the time now I prefer being by myself out there!

Hey, I apologized for responding under the influence of to many adult beverages on New Years eve....I did....really.......