I hate to play arm chair PO-PO, but she didn't have control of the situation from the get-go.
The worst part is the guy will never blame himself for what happened either. He seemed very off. I hope he sits and jail and realizes that he single handily got his own mother shot, for throwing a childish like temper tantrum, over what was probably just a simple misdemeanor shoplifting charge. What an idiot.
This. It has nothing to do with sex, it's mindset. Yes, I recognize the strength dynamic, but her reluctance to handle that situation quickly and forcefully, from the outset, let this situation unfold the way it did. If I ever had to put my hands on someone, there was no pulling away and then telling me what I couldn't do. In fact those words would have never gotten out of that person's mouth because they'd be eating payment with a knee on their head.