Alright, let me just ask this: Can you put the view of "perversion" based in logic, no religion. What is it about homosexuality that makes it a "perversion"?
Anal sex is biologically unclean. Lots of bacteria. Not to mention the chance to rip the Anus and require surgery. That is why it isn't the best of ideas of male-female couples to do it, even though from a Biblical standpoint it isn't a sin (assuming the couple is married). The vagina is much stronger than the Anus and is made to receive the penis.
Taking the sex totally out of the picture you essentially just have a loving relationship between two people of the same sex. It don't see any logical problems with this, although there may be some emotional/psychological issues unique to those types of relationships (Thinking roles specifically).
Back on topic though, Dross summed it up best. This is an issue that the Courts have no business being involved in. There is no right to join the United States military, whether gay or straight.
I have no problems with DADT being removed, but at least Congress should be doing it, not the Courts, regardless of how long it takes.