thunderchicken
Grandmaster
I kinda understand his delima but I don't know how it was never discussed or he didn't get some gut feeling there was a issue.
When my wife and I married she knew I had a handful of guns. Heck, I was a court deputy for the Sheriffs dept at the time. But once married she started spazing out about "you have too many guns, who needs all of those". So I simply reminded her, I had these things when we met, she knew I had them and she made the commitment to me just as I committed to her. It's part of who I am and nothing has changed, she will not force me to give up things, traditions that I hold dear. Likewise I wouldn't do that to her and she needed to decide if she is as committed now as she was when we were dating, and if not so be it. That worked for me. From the outside looking in it seems your buddy needs to ask the new wife about her commitment to him and accepting who he is. And, that they will both always have some interest's that the other person won't enjoy and that is ok. But they need to accpet these things and not make demands.
When my wife and I married she knew I had a handful of guns. Heck, I was a court deputy for the Sheriffs dept at the time. But once married she started spazing out about "you have too many guns, who needs all of those". So I simply reminded her, I had these things when we met, she knew I had them and she made the commitment to me just as I committed to her. It's part of who I am and nothing has changed, she will not force me to give up things, traditions that I hold dear. Likewise I wouldn't do that to her and she needed to decide if she is as committed now as she was when we were dating, and if not so be it. That worked for me. From the outside looking in it seems your buddy needs to ask the new wife about her commitment to him and accepting who he is. And, that they will both always have some interest's that the other person won't enjoy and that is ok. But they need to accpet these things and not make demands.